Electronics have a place in our lives. I believe is nearly impossible to live a life today without them. And frankly, they’re the main reason I have a job: men who lack self-mastery use them to look at pornography, break the hearts of their poor wives, and I work with these amazing ladies to bring joy back into their lives.
But they also have an amazing place in our world. They allow connection to people and places where there was little to no previous connection. Social media sites allow us to communicate with family and friends with whom we may have otherwise lost track. We can call for help when our car breaks down on the side of the road instead of just praying that a police car shows up, or walking the mile to find the next yellow call box. (Do they even have those anymore?)
Anyways, you get the point. Cel phones, computers, and tablets all have a useful place in our lives. I have found though, not only with my clients but with myself, that connections using electronics can become a burden when not used wisely. How many times do we find ourselves mindlessly scrolling through pinterest or facebook, or playing one of the endless supply of infinite runners or puzzle games that are available at our fingertips? How often are we spending time doing this instead of engaging in activities that would truly enrich our lives. How often does work stay undone, goals go unmet, children go ignored, and dinner haphazardly slapped together in the name of “downtime” on our devices.
Downtime is good. Downtime is important. But is what you’re doing really downtime? Or is it numbing? Is what you’re facing elsewhere in your life so overwhelming that you’re ignoring it? If so, step away from the phone. Then make a list. Dump everything out of your brain onto paper. Next, set certain “phone time” blocks in your schedule; say first thing in the morning, during lunch, and before bedtime. Finally, start tackling that list. You don’t have to plow through it super-quick. You don’t want to frustrate yourself because it’s so tiring. Start with a couple easier things. Then do something harder. Then breeze through some easier things. Next, tackle something you’ve been putting off for a long time. It’ll feel really good! Remember to get your schedule phone time in!
Still feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to me on my contact page. I can help you set goals to spend more time doing what’s important and will fulfill your life.